Hello my loves,
Have you ever found yourself holding back, staying silent, or saying what you think others want to hear? If so, you might be wrestling with what I call the "Pleaser Saboteur" – a pattern of behaviour that can slowly erode our relationships, professional growth, and personal authenticity.
Recently, I've been diving deep into my own journey of recognizing how people-pleasing has subtly sabotaged my success. Through work with Positive Intelligence, I've started to unravel the complex ways this tendency shows up in my life:
In family dynamics, where I've remained silent during politically charged conversations to avoid discomfort, only to feel our connections gradually drift
In my business, where fear of seeming "salesy" has prevented me from sharing valuable content and connecting with my audience
In personal relationships, where the fear of disappointing others has led me to communicate inauthentically, eroding trust
The cost of people-pleasing is far more significant than we initially realize. It's not just about avoiding conflict – it's about losing pieces of ourselves in the process.
Have you been struggling with being a Pleaser? Or maybe a Stickler, or a Controller?
There’s 9 main ways we sabotage ourselves… here’s a few I’ve been working on with people this week.
Ready to Uncover Your Saboteurs?
I invite you to take the FREE Saboteur Assessment! This powerful quiz will help you identify the hidden mental patterns that could be sabotaging your success, relationships, and personal growth.
By understanding your unique saboteur profile, you'll gain incredible insights into your thought patterns and discover strategies to overcome them. It's a game-changing step towards more authentic, empowered living.
Want to dive deeper into understanding how your inner saboteurs might be holding you back? You can sign up for a session with me here, to unpack your quiz results and we will envision a much more beautiful way forward.
Here’s to your beautiful life!
~Nancy
P.S… If you are one of my beautiful hyper-achievers that listened to the video and wants to know more about the cohort starting this Friday, you can learn more about it here.
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